What’s Wrong with Needy People

The Uncomfortable Truth About Our Own Needs

It's easy to point fingers at those we deem 'needy'. We roll our eyes, sigh dramatically, and mutter about their constant demands. But what if I told you that our reaction to their neediness says far more about us than it does about them? It's a mirror, reflecting back our own insecurities and unmet desires. It's a tough pill to swallow, but facing this truth is the first step towards genuine connection.

Why We Flinch at Others' Vulnerability

Why does someone else's neediness get under our skin so much? I reckon it's because it forces us to confront something we'd rather ignore: our own vulnerability. We live in a society that prizes independence and self-sufficiency. Asking for help is often seen as a sign of weakness, a character flaw to be avoided at all costs. So, when someone else openly displays their need for support, it challenges this carefully constructed facade. It reminds us that we, too, are human, and that we, too, have needs that sometimes go unmet. This realisation can be deeply unsettling, leading us to recoil from the 'needy' person as a way of distancing ourselves from our own uncomfortable truths. It's easier to judge than to empathise, isn't it?

The Mirror of Self-Consciousness

Our discomfort with needy people often stems from our own self-consciousness. We worry about being seen as weak or burdensome if we express our own needs. We fear rejection, judgement, or simply being a bother. This fear can lead us to suppress our own desires for connection and support, creating a sense of isolation and resentment. When we encounter someone who is seemingly uninhibited in their pursuit of attention and validation, it can trigger these underlying insecurities. We see their behaviour as excessive or inappropriate, failing to recognise that it might simply be a reflexion of a need that we ourselves are too afraid to acknowledge. As this page offers guidance for individuals struggling with feelings of unlovability, it's important to remember that everyone deserves to feel worthy of love and support.

Unpacking Our Own Unmet Desires

What are we really feeling when we label someone as 'needy'? Is it annoyance? Pity? Disgust? Or is it something deeper, something that touches upon our own unmet desires? Perhaps we crave more attention, more validation, more connection. But for whatever reason, we're unable or unwilling to ask for it directly. Instead, we project these unmet needs onto others, judging them for expressing the very desires we secretly harbour. It's a twisted irony, isn't it? By acknowledging our own unmet desires, we can begin to understand the behaviour of those we deem 'needy' with greater compassion. It's about recognising that we're all in this together, navigating the complexities of human connection and the universal longing to be seen, heard, and valued. Join the Unshakeable People Club to learn more about building strong relationships.

The Universal Human Condition of Need

Beyond the Annoyance: We All Crave Connection

It's easy to get irritated by someone who seems constantly in need of something – attention, reassurance, a favour. But here's the thing: that irritation often masks a deeper truth. We all have needs. It's part of being human. We all crave connection, validation, and a sense of belonging. To deny that in others is to deny it in ourselves. It's like looking in a mirror and refusing to acknowledge your own reflexion.

The Spectrum of Social Needs

Our needs aren't all the same, of course. They exist on a spectrum. Some of us need a lot of social interaction to feel fulfilled, while others are content with a smaller circle. Some need constant praise to feel valued, while others are happy with quiet acknowledgement. These needs can include the desire to feel respected, recognised, valued, in control, being liked, and independent. It's about understanding where you and others fall on that spectrum. It's about recognising that there's no 'normal' amount of need – just different expressions of the same fundamental human desire for connection. Understanding the sources of humanity's problems is the first step.

From Disappointment to Desperation: Reactions to Unmet Needs

What happens when those needs aren't met? Well, that's where things get interesting. For some, it's a mild disappointment. A passing feeling of sadness or frustration. But for others, unmet needs can trigger much stronger reactions. Anxiety, anger, even desperation. It's like a hunger that gnaws away at you, leaving you feeling empty and unfulfilled. A healthy reaction to an unmet need is to find a positive way to get our needs met. Sometimes, we try too hard to get others to fulfil our needs. The key is to understand why those needs aren't being met and to find healthy ways to address them. It's about learning to self-soothe, to build resilience, and to find validation from within. It's about recognising that while we all need connection, we also need to be able to stand on our own two feet. It's about not feeling obligated to be grateful.

We all want to be seen, understood, feel cared for, and feel valued for what we offer. Depending on the situation, our reactions to not getting our needs met range from slight disappointment to extreme anxiety.

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When Needs Morph Into Overly Needy Behaviours

I reckon we've all encountered someone whose needs seem...insatiable. It's like they've got this bottomless pit, and no matter how much you pour in, it's never enough. It's not just about having needs – we all have those. It's when those needs start to dictate every interaction, every conversation, every moment. It's when it tips over into something that feels, well, overly needy. It's a tricky thing, because underneath it all, there's usually just a person craving connection, validation, something we all want, really. But the way it manifests can be, let's be honest, exhausting.

The Relentless Pursuit of Attention and Praise

Some people just seem to need constant reassurance. It's like they're fishing for compliments every single second. "Do you like my new shoes?" "Was my presentation okay?" "Am I a good person?" It never ends. And it's not just a one-off thing; it's a relentless, never-ending cycle. I find myself wondering what's driving it. Is it a deep-seated insecurity? A lack of self-worth? Whatever it is, it's draining to be around. I think most people want to feel that what they do adds value, but they also want to feel their existence is validated. They sometimes need to be constantly praised. More likely, they need people to thank them for what they do.

The Cycle of Disdain and Escalated Need

Here's the thing: when someone's constantly seeking attention, it can be really easy to get irritated. You start to pull away, maybe even respond with a bit of disdain. But here's the kicker: that disdain fuels their neediness. It's like you're confirming their worst fears – that they're not good enough, that they're unlovable. So, they ramp up the attention-seeking behaviour, trying even harder to get your approval. And the cycle just keeps spinning, getting more and more intense. It's a horrible dynamic, and it's tough to break. You might cringe when people who need your attention ask to talk to you. You then answer with disdain, which makes them even more needy.

Understanding the Roots of Persistent Seeking

I think it's important to try and understand why someone is so persistently seeking attention. It's rarely just about being annoying. More often than not, it's rooted in something deeper. Maybe they didn't get enough attention as a child. Maybe they've experienced trauma or loss. Maybe they're just struggling with low self-esteem. Whatever it is, that persistent seeking is usually a symptom of something else. And while it doesn't excuse the behaviour, it can help you approach it with a bit more empathy. It's a useful perspective if you’re a needy person, too. If you keep reaching out to someone and they aren't afraid to ask, it might be a reflexion of your own self-consciousness.

The Echoes of Childhood: Unfulfilled Recognition

The Early Lessons of Validation

I reckon we all start out as little validation-seeking missiles, don't we? From the moment we draw our first breath, we're looking for a sign, a nod, anything to tell us we're doing alright. It's in those early years, watching our parents' faces, that we learn what behaviours bring smiles and what brings frowns. These become the first lessons in self-worth, etched into our developing brains. If praise is scarce, or conditional, it sets the stage for a lifelong quest for external approval. It's a tough gig, trying to fill a void that was created before we even knew what a void was.

When Effort Goes Unseen

It's not always about grand achievements, is it? Sometimes, it's the quiet, consistent effort that goes unnoticed. The kid who always tries their best, even if they're not top of the class. The one who helps around the house without being asked. When these efforts are consistently overlooked, it sends a powerful message: "What you do doesn't matter unless it's exceptional." This can lead to a deep-seated feeling of inadequacy, a belief that unconditional love is only earned, not freely given. It's a bloody hard lesson to unlearn.

The Lingering Hunger for Acknowledgment

That childhood hunger for acknowledgment? It doesn't just vanish when we become adults. It lingers, often manifesting in ways we don't even realise. The constant need for praise at work, the fishing for compliments, the inability to accept criticism – these can all be echoes of that unfulfilled need for recognition. It's like carrying around an empty cup, constantly seeking someone to fill it. And the worst part? We often end up pushing people away with our neediness, perpetuating the cycle of disappointment. It's a vicious circle, and breaking free requires a hefty dose of self-awareness and a willingness to rediscover oneself.

It's easy to judge those who seem overly needy, but I've come to realise that their behaviour is often a symptom of a deeper wound. A wound inflicted by a lack of validation in their formative years. It's a reminder that we all carry our own baggage, and sometimes, the heaviest burdens are the ones we can't see.

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Navigating the Labyrinth of Needy Interactions

It's happened to all of us. Someone in your life – a friend, a colleague, maybe even a family member – seems to constantly need validation, attention, or reassurance. It can be draining, frustrating, and, if I'm honest, downright annoying. But before I write them off, I try to remember that there's usually more to it than meets the eye.

Distinguishing the Person from the Behaviour

It's easy to fall into the trap of labelling someone as 'needy' and dismissing them outright. But that's a massive oversimplification. The key is to separate the person from their behaviour. Just because someone is exhibiting needy behaviours doesn't mean that's all they are. They're still a complex individual with their own history, insecurities, and strengths. I try to remind myself of their good qualities, their humour, their kindness – the things that make them, them. This helps me approach the situation with a bit more empathy.

Releasing the Irritation: A Breath of Perspective

Okay, so someone's being particularly demanding. My first instinct is often irritation. I feel my patience wearing thin, and I want to snap. But before I react, I try to take a deep breath and gain some perspective. I ask myself: Is this behaviour really about me? Or is it about something else entirely? Are they feeling insecure, stressed, or lonely? Often, the answer is yes. This doesn't excuse their behaviour, but it does help me understand it. It's about understanding the roots of their actions, not just reacting to the surface.

Strategic Responses to Demanding Dynamics

So, what do I actually do when someone's being overly needy? Ignoring them isn't really an option, and giving in to every demand just reinforces the behaviour. I've found that a combination of clear communication and boundary setting is the most effective approach. Here are a few things I try to keep in mind:

• Be direct, but kind: I try to explain my limits clearly and calmly, without being accusatory or judgmental. For example, instead of saying "You're always asking for my help!", I might say "I'm happy to help when I can, but I'm really busy this week.

• Offer alternative solutions: If someone's constantly seeking my advice, I might suggest other resources they could try, like a support group or a therapist. This shows that I care, but also encourages them to develop their own coping mechanisms.

• Don't be afraid to say no: This is the hardest one, but it's essential. I can't be everything to everyone, and it's okay to prioritise my own needs. Saying no doesn't make me a bad person; it makes me a person with boundaries. It's about setting boundaries with compassion, not cutting people off.

Ultimately, dealing with needy people is about finding a balance between compassion and self-preservation. It's about recognising their needs without sacrificing my own. It's a tricky dance, but one that can lead to stronger, more authentic relationships.

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The Bold Claim: Need as a Precondition of Strength

It's easy to dismiss someone as 'needy'. We've all done it. But what if I told you that neediness, that very thing we often find so irritating, is actually a sign of strength? It's a bold claim, I know, but stick with me. I've been thinking a lot about this lately, and I reckon there's something to it.

Challenging the Notion of Weakness

We're taught to value independence, self-sufficiency. To need nothing, to be a rock. But is that realistic? Is it even desirable? I don't think so. True strength isn't about never needing anything; it's about being brave enough to admit when you do. It's about having the courage to reach out, to ask for help, to be vulnerable. Think about it: who's weaker, the person who silently struggles or the one who says, "I'm not okay, I need support"? I know who I respect more.

Embracing Vulnerability as Power

Vulnerability gets a bad rap. We see it as a weakness, an opening for attack. But I'm starting to see it differently. Vulnerability is power. It's the power to connect with others on a deeper level, to build authentic relationships, to receive the support we need to grow. It's about dropping the mask, showing our true selves, flaws and all. And that takes guts. It takes more guts than pretending everything's fine when it's not. I've found that self-assertion is key to embracing vulnerability.

Re-evaluating Our Judgments of Others

Maybe, just maybe, when we judge someone as 'needy', we're actually judging ourselves. Maybe we're uncomfortable with their vulnerability because it reminds us of our own unmet needs, our own fears of being seen as weak. Maybe their neediness is a mirror, reflecting back our own insecurities. It's worth considering. Next time you find yourself rolling your eyes at someone's perceived neediness, ask yourself: what's really bothering me? What am I afraid of? What am I not allowing myself to need? Perhaps you're setting your relationship standards too high, or maybe you're just with the wrong people. The answer might surprise you.

It's easy to forget that everyone is fighting their own battles, carrying their own burdens. We all have needs, whether we admit it or not. And sometimes, those needs manifest in ways that are, well, annoying. But instead of judging, maybe we can try to offer a little compassion, a little understanding. Because at the end of the day, we're all just trying to get by, trying to feel seen, trying to feel loved. And that's not weakness; that's humanity.

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Reclaiming Your Space: Setting Boundaries with Compassion

Protecting Your Time and Energy

It's easy to get caught in the trap of feeling guilty when someone needs something from you. I know I've been there. But the truth is, your time and energy are finite resources. You can't pour from an empty cup, and constantly giving without replenishing will leave you drained and resentful. Think of it like this: if you're always saying 'yes' to everyone else, you're effectively saying 'no' to yourself. It's not selfish to protect your boundaries; it's essential for your well-being.

• Prioritise your own needs.

• Schedule downtime.

• Learn to say 'no' without guilt.

I've realised that setting boundaries isn't about pushing people away; it's about creating a sustainable way to exist alongside them. It's about ensuring that I can continue to be there for others without sacrificing my own sanity.

Communicating Limits Without Cruelty

Setting boundaries doesn't have to be a harsh, confrontational affair. It's about clear, honest communication. The key is to be assertive, not aggressive. Use 'I' statements to express your needs and limits without blaming the other person. For example, instead of saying, "You're always asking for my help," try, "I'm feeling overwhelmed at the moment, and I need to prioritise my own tasks." Remember, healing from childhood emotional neglect can make setting boundaries feel incredibly difficult, but it's a vital step in reclaiming your personal power.

• Be direct and clear.

• Use 'I' statements.

• Offer alternative solutions if possible.

Fostering Healthy Interdependence

Ultimately, healthy relationships are built on interdependence, not dependence. It's about recognising that we all have needs, but we're also capable of meeting many of those needs ourselves. Encouraging others to develop their own resources and skills is an act of kindness, not rejection. It's about empowering them to become more self-sufficient and less reliant on you. It's a delicate balance, but one that's worth striving for. I've found that sometimes, the most compassionate thing you can do is to help someone help themselves. Learning how to stop being a people-pleaser is a big part of this.

Consider this:

Aspect	Healthy Interdependence	Unhealthy Dependence
Responsibility	Shared	Uneven
Emotional Support	Reciprocal	One-sided
Boundaries	Clear	Blurred

The Philosophical Underpinnings of Human Connection

The Innate Drive to Belong

I reckon, deep down, we're all just trying to find our tribe. It's this primal urge, isn't it? To connect, to be seen, to matter to someone. It's not some fluffy, feel-good notion; it's wired into our very being. We crave belonging like we crave air. I've seen it in the loneliest of souls and the most outwardly confident. That need never really goes away. It just gets expressed in different ways.

The Interplay of Giving and Receiving

Life's a dance, a constant back-and-forth. It's not just about taking, and it's definitely not just about giving until you're empty. It's about finding that balance, that rhythm where you're both filling your own cup and pouring into others. I've learned the hard way that if I'm always giving, I end up resentful and burnt out. And if I'm always taking, well, I become the very thing I despise: a bottomless pit of need. Finding that healthy family connections is the key.

Cultivating Authentic Relationships

Authenticity, that's the real gold, isn't it? None of this surface-level, pretending-to-be-perfect nonsense. I'm talking about showing up as you are, flaws and all. It's scary, I know. But it's the only way to build relationships that actually mean something. I've wasted too much time trying to be someone I'm not, trying to impress people who didn't even care about the real me. Now, I'd rather have a handful of genuine connections than a room full of fake smiles. It's about finding people who see your innate drive to belong and love you anyway.

It's easy to get caught up in the idea that we need to be strong and independent all the time. But the truth is, we're all vulnerable. We all need someone. And that's okay. It's part of what makes us human. The trick is to find people who can handle your vulnerability, who can offer support without judgement, and who can be real with you in return.

Here are some things I've found helpful in building authentic relationships:

• Being honest about my feelings, even when it's uncomfortable.

• Listening to others without interrupting or judging.

• Showing empathy and compassion, even when I don't fully understand.

• Setting boundaries and saying no when I need to.

Moving Beyond Annoyance: A Deeper Understanding

I'll be honest, the first reaction to someone constantly needing reassurance or attention is often irritation. It's human. But what if we could move past that initial feeling? What if we could see something more profound at play? It's not always easy, but it's worth the effort.

Shifting Our Internal Narrative

It's easy to label someone as 'needy' and dismiss them. But that's a surface-level judgement. What if, instead, we saw their behaviour as a signal? A signal of something deeper going on within them, and perhaps, within ourselves? Our immediate reactions often tell us more about our own insecurities than about the other person's actual needs. It's like looking in a mirror – what we dislike in others might be a reflexion of what we haven't fully accepted in ourselves. I've found that challenging my initial judgement can be surprisingly revealing.

Empathy as a Tool for Management

Empathy isn't just about feeling sorry for someone; it's a practical tool. When someone's 'neediness' starts to grate, try to understand where it's coming from. Are they feeling insecure, unheard, or unappreciated? Understanding the root cause doesn't mean you have to solve their problems, but it does allow you to respond with more compassion and less frustration. It's about recognising their humanity, even when their behaviour is challenging. It's about seeing the person behind the behaviour. If you are feeling burnout, it's important to take a step back and re-evaluate.

The Transformative Power of Perspective

Changing how we perceive 'needy' behaviour can be transformative, not just for our relationships, but for our own personal growth. It forces us to confront our own discomfort with vulnerability and dependence. It challenges us to be more patient, more understanding, and more compassionate. And, perhaps most importantly, it reminds us that we're all in this together, all navigating the complexities of human connection. It's about recognising that we all crave connection and validation, even if we express it in different ways.

It's easy to get caught up in the annoyance of someone's constant need for attention. But taking a step back and trying to understand the underlying reasons for their behaviour can shift your perspective. It's about recognising that everyone has needs, and sometimes those needs manifest in ways that are challenging to deal with. By shifting your internal narrative, you can respond with more empathy and compassion, creating a more positive interaction for both of you.

The Art of Responding to Emotional Hunger

I reckon we've all been there, staring into the abyss of someone else's emotional neediness. It's like they're holding out an empty cup, and you're supposed to fill it with… what, exactly? Attention? Validation? A bottomless supply of patience? It can be draining, no doubt. But what if I told you that responding to that hunger, that insatiable craving for something more, could be an art form? Not just for them, but for you too.

Identifying the Core Need Beneath the Surface

It's easy to get caught up in the behaviours – the constant calls, the endless requests for reassurance, the subtle (or not-so-subtle) digs for compliments. But those are just symptoms. The real trick is to figure out what's actually driving it. Are they feeling insecure? Unseen? Unloved? Often, what looks like neediness is just a desperate attempt to fill a void. It's about digging deeper, past the surface-level demands, to understand the ache underneath. It's like peeling back the layers of an onion – messy, maybe a bit tearful, but ultimately revealing the core.

Offering Genuine Validation, Not Just Praise

Praise is cheap. Anyone can dish out a "well done" or a "that's great!" But validation? That's about seeing the person for who they are, acknowledging their struggles, and recognising their worth, regardless of their achievements. It's about saying, "I see you, I hear you, and your feelings are valid." It's not about empty platitudes; it's about navigating difficult conversations with honesty and empathy. It's about connecting on a human level, and letting them know they're not alone in their experience.

Guiding Towards Self-Sufficiency

Look, I'm not suggesting you become someone's emotional crutch. That helps no one. The real art lies in helping them find their own two feet. It's about empowering them to meet their own needs, to build their own sense of self-worth, and to find their own sources of validation. This might involve encouraging them to seek professional help, to explore their passions, or to build stronger relationships with others. It's about gently nudging them towards independence, while still offering support and understanding. It's a delicate balance, but it's the key to helping them break free from the cycle of neediness and discover their own inner strength. It's about helping them understand their emotions and challenging the notion that they are broken.

It's not about fixing them, it's about helping them fix themselves. It's about offering a hand up, not a handout. And it's about remembering that we're all a bit needy sometimes, just trying to find our way in this messy, complicated world.

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The Path to Personal Growth Through Others' Needs

I've been thinking a lot lately about how we react to people's needs, especially when those needs feel… intense. It's easy to get caught up in our own stuff and see someone else's neediness as an annoyance, a drain on our energy. But what if we flipped that around? What if we saw those interactions as opportunities for our own growth? It's a tough ask, I know, but bear with me.

Learning About Ourselves Through Their Demands

It's funny, isn't it? The things that irritate us most in others often point to something we're wrestling with in ourselves. Someone constantly seeking validation might trigger us because, deep down, we crave that validation too, but we're too afraid to admit it. Their demands, their behaviours, act like a mirror, reflecting back our own insecurities and unmet desires. It's not always comfortable to look, but it's incredibly valuable. I've found that when I can identify what's really bugging me about someone else's neediness, I'm one step closer to understanding myself better. Maybe it's time to consider mindfulness practises to help with personal development.

Strengthening Our Own Emotional Resilience

Dealing with needy people isn't a walk in the park. It can be emotionally taxing, no doubt. But think about it: each time we navigate those tricky interactions, we're building our emotional resilience. We're learning to set boundaries, to communicate our needs clearly, and to manage our own emotional responses. It's like emotional weightlifting – the more we do it, the stronger we become. I've noticed that the more I practise setting boundaries, the easier it becomes to handle demanding situations without getting completely drained.

The Unexpected Gifts of Challenging Interactions

Okay, this might sound a bit Pollyanna-ish, but I genuinely believe that even the most challenging interactions can offer unexpected gifts. When we approach these situations with an open mind and a willingness to learn, we can gain valuable insights into human behaviour, into the complexities of relationships, and into our own capacity for empathy. Maybe someone's constant need for attention stems from a deep-seated fear of abandonment, rooted in their childhood. Understanding that doesn't excuse their behaviour, but it does allow us to respond with more compassion and less judgement. And who knows, maybe we can even help them find healthier ways to meet their needs. It's about seeing beyond the surface and recognising the shared humanity that connects us all. It's not about enabling bad behaviour, but about understanding the underlying causes and responding with both firmness and kindness.

It's easy to dismiss needy people as annoying or draining, but I've come to realise that those interactions can be powerful catalysts for personal growth. They force us to confront our own insecurities, strengthen our emotional resilience, and cultivate a deeper sense of empathy. It's not always easy, but it's always worth it.

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So, What's the Real Deal with Needy People?

Look, I've thought about this a lot, and here's what I've landed on: it's easy to point fingers at someone else and call them "needy." We all do it. But when I really dig into it, I see a bit of myself in there. Maybe it's not about them being "wrong" at all. Maybe it's about how I see my own needs, or the stuff I'm not brave enough to ask for. It's a messy business, this human connection thing. We all want to be seen, to matter, to feel like we're not just floating out there alone. So, next time I feel that little twitch of annoyance at someone who seems a bit much, I'm going to try and remember that. It's probably just a mirror, showing me something about myself I haven't quite faced yet. And that's a tough pill to swallow, but it's the truth, isn't it?

Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I sometimes feel awkward around people who seem to need a lot?

Well, I think it's because when I see someone else being really open about what they need, it sometimes makes me feel a bit squirmy. It's like I'm looking in a mirror, and I might not always like what I see about my own hidden needs or the parts of me that feel a bit weak. It's a bit uncomfortable, to be honest.

Is it true that everyone has needs, even if they don't show it?

I've learned that everyone, including me, has needs. We all want to feel connected, understood, and important. It's just part of being human. So, when I see someone who seems 'needy', I try to remember that they're just showing a very common human desire, maybe just in a different way than I do.

What makes someone act in a way that seems 'overly needy'?

From what I've seen, sometimes people act 'needy' because they're trying really hard to get attention or praise that they didn't get enough of when they were younger. It's like they're still searching for that feeling of being seen and valued. It's not always about being annoying; sometimes it's about a deep, old hunger.

How can I handle it when someone is being really demanding of my time or attention?

I try to remember that the person themselves is usually a good person, even if their actions are a bit much. I take a deep breath to calm my own irritation, and then I try to respond in a way that's kind but also clear about my own limits. It's about being smart with my energy.

Could needing things actually be a good thing, not a bad one?

It sounds a bit strange, but I've started to think that showing our needs isn't a sign of weakness at all. Actually, it can be a sign of strength! It takes courage to be open about what you need. I'm trying to change my mind about this and see vulnerability as powerful.

What's the best way for me to set limits with someone who is very needy?

For me, setting boundaries means deciding how much time and energy I can comfortably give to someone without feeling drained. Then, I gently tell them what I can and can't do. It's about protecting myself while still being caring, so we can have a healthy connection.

Why is connecting with other people so important to me?

I believe we all have a natural urge to feel like we belong and to connect with others. It's not just a nice idea; it's a basic part of being human. When we give and receive from each other in a real way, that's when truly good relationships happen.

How can I help someone who seems to have a strong emotional need?

When I see someone acting needy, I try to look past the surface behaviour and guess what they're really needing underneath – maybe it's just to feel heard or important. I try to give them a bit of real understanding, not just empty praise, and gently help them find ways to feel more secure on their own.