How Emotionally Healthy Are You?

The Unseen Battle: What Is Emotional Health, Really?

I reckon most of us, when we think about health, we're picturing the physical stuff. Gym sessions, kale smoothies, the whole shebang. But what about the stuff you can't see? The tangled mess of feelings and thoughts that run the show behind the scenes? That's where emotional health comes in, and let me tell you, it's a battlefield most of us are fighting on without even realising it. It's not just about being happy all the time; it's about how you handle the whole damn spectrum of life.

Beyond The Surface: Defining Your Inner Landscape

Emotional health, for me, is about awareness. It's about knowing what's going on inside your head and heart, and not running away from it. It's about understanding your reactions, your triggers, and your patterns. It's the ability to sit with yourself, even when it's uncomfortable, and say, 'Right, what's actually going on here?' It's not about being perfect, it's about being honest. It's about recognising that you're a flawed human being, just like everyone else, and that's okay. It's about having good mental health.

The Mind-Body Tango: How Emotions Shape Your Physical Being

I've learned the hard way that what goes on in your head doesn't stay there. It seeps into your bones, your muscles, your whole damn being. Stress? It ain't just a feeling; it's a physical weight. Anxiety? It's a knot in your stomach, a tightness in your chest. The mind and body are in a constant tango, each leading and following in turn. Ignore your emotions, and your body will start screaming at you. Trust me, I've been there. It's about the mind-body connection.

Navigating The Storm: Emotional Regulation Versus Mental Illness

Here's the thing: emotional health isn't the same as mental illness. You can have a bad day, a bad week, even a bad year, and still be emotionally healthy. It's about how you cope, how you bounce back, how you learn to ride the waves. Mental illness, on the other hand, often has deeper roots – chemical imbalances, trauma, things that need professional help. But even with a mental illness, you can still work on your emotional health, on your ability to regulate your emotions, to find healthy coping mechanisms. It's not an either/or situation; it's about understanding the difference and positive thinking to improve your mental health.

It's about recognising that you're not alone in this struggle. We all have our demons, our battles, our moments of darkness. The key is to keep fighting, to keep learning, to keep growing. And to remember that it's okay to ask for help along the way.

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Whispers From Within: Recognising The Signs Of Emotional Strain

Sometimes, life feels like wading through treacle. You know that feeling? That heavy, sluggish drag on your soul? It's not always a dramatic breakdown; more often, it's the subtle erosion of your emotional well-being. These are the whispers, the early warning signs that something's not quite right. Ignoring them is like ignoring a leaky tap – eventually, you'll have a flood.

The Shadow Of Isolation: When Connection Fades

I've been there, man. The slow fade. Used to be, I'd crave a pint with the lads, a good chinwag about nothing and everything. Now? The thought of it just feels… exhausting. That's the shadow of isolation creeping in. It starts small, a missed call here, a raincheck there. Before you know it, you're living in a bubble, and the silence is deafening. It's not about being antisocial; it's about a deep-seated weariness that makes connection feel like a monumental effort. Don't let it get that far. Reach out. Even a text can be a lifeline. Community is important, so plan regular shared time with friends and family.

Energy Dips And Sleep Shifts: Your Body's Cry For Help

My body's always been a pretty reliable machine. I push it hard, and it usually bounces back. But lately? I'm running on fumes. Sleep? What's that? Either I'm staring at the ceiling until 3 AM, or I'm crashing so hard I can barely drag myself out of bed. And the fatigue… it's not just physical. It's a bone-deep weariness that saps the joy out of everything. This is your body screaming for help. Don't ignore it. Listen to the whispers before they become a roar.

The Unsettled Mind: Racing Thoughts And Inner Turmoil

Ever feel like your brain is a washing machine on spin cycle? Thoughts swirling, worries churning, and no way to hit the pause button? That's the unsettled mind. For me, it manifests as a constant stream of 'what ifs' and 'should haves'. It's like there's a little gremlin in my head, constantly picking at old wounds and stoking new anxieties. It's relentless. It's exhausting. And it's a clear sign that my emotional health is taking a beating. Meditation helps you to notice your thoughts and emotions, which is key to emotional wellness.

It's easy to dismiss these signs as just 'a bad patch'. But ignoring them is like ignoring a warning light on your car's dashboard. Sooner or later, something's going to break down. Pay attention to the whispers. They're trying to tell you something.

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The Mirror's Gaze: Confronting Your Emotional Reality

It's easy to keep busy, to distract myself with the endless noise of the world. But sometimes, I need to stop. I need to turn inward, to face the reflexion staring back from the mirror. It's not always pretty, but it's necessary. It's about being honest with myself, even when it hurts. It's about acknowledging the good, the bad, and the ugly, without flinching. It's about truly seeing myself, not just the image I project to the world.

Honest Self-Assessment: Are You Truly Thriving?

Am I really okay? That's the question I have to ask myself. Not the polite, surface-level "How are you?" that I throw around in conversations. But the deep, gut-wrenching, honest question that demands an honest answer. It's about looking beyond the facade of a busy life and asking if I'm genuinely thriving, or just surviving.

Thriving isn't about having it all; it's about feeling whole. It's about having a sense of purpose, connection, and joy. It's about feeling like I'm living a life that's aligned with my values. If I'm honest, sometimes I'm just going through the motions. And that's okay, as long as I acknowledge it and take steps to change it. I need to improve emotional health to thrive.

Unpacking The Weight: Identifying Your Emotional Triggers

What sets me off? What are the situations, the people, the memories that send me spiralling? These are my emotional triggers, and they're different for everyone. For me, it might be the feeling of being overwhelmed, the fear of failure, or the sting of rejection. It's important to identify these triggers, to understand where they come from, and to develop strategies for managing them. Ignoring them won't make them disappear; it'll only give them more power over me. I need to manage emotional eating to avoid triggers.

It's like carrying a backpack full of rocks. Each rock represents an unresolved issue, a past trauma, a fear. The longer I carry the backpack, the heavier it gets. Eventually, it becomes unbearable. Unpacking the weight means identifying each rock, examining it, and deciding whether to keep it or let it go.

The Courage To Look: Why Self-Awareness Is Your Superpower

Self-awareness is a superpower. It's the ability to see myself clearly, to understand my strengths and weaknesses, my motivations and fears. It's about knowing what makes me tick, what makes me happy, and what makes me want to hide under the covers. It takes courage to look at myself honestly, to confront the parts of myself that I don't like. But it's only through self-awareness that I can truly grow and evolve. It's the foundation for building a more authentic, fulfilling life. It's about building better mental health.

Here are some ways I can improve my self-awareness:

• Journaling regularly

• Practising mindfulness

• Seeking feedback from trusted friends and family

• Reflecting on my experiences

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Forging Resilience: Building Your Emotional Armour

Life, eh? It throws punches. Some you see coming, some blindside you completely. It's not about avoiding the blows – that's impossible. It's about how you absorb them, how you get back up. That's resilience. It's not some innate superpower; it's a muscle you build, rep by rep, scar by scar. I've taken my fair share of hits, and I'm still standing, a little bruised, maybe a little cynical, but definitely stronger. Let's talk about how to forge that strength, how to build your emotional armour.

The Art Of Balance: Crafting A Life That Nourishes Your Soul

It's easy to get caught in the grind, the endless to-do lists, the constant pressure. But if you're running on empty, you're going to crack. Balance isn't about perfection; it's about finding a rhythm that works for you. It's about making conscious choices about where you spend your energy.

• Saying 'no' to things that drain you.

• Prioritising activities that fill you up.

• Creating space for rest and reflexion.

I used to think balance was about splitting my time equally between work, family, and hobbies. Turns out, it's more about understanding what I need in each moment and adjusting accordingly. Some days, work takes precedence; other days, it's all about family. The key is to be present and intentional in whatever I'm doing.

Cultivating Connection: The Power Of Your Tribe

We're not meant to do this alone. Isolation is a killer, a slow burn that erodes your spirit. Connection is the antidote. It's about finding your tribe, the people who get you, who support you, who challenge you to be better. These are the people who will hold your hand when you're falling apart and celebrate your victories like their own. Don't underestimate the power of a good conversation, a shared laugh, a knowing glance. These are the threads that weave the fabric of our lives.

• Make time for meaningful interactions.

• Be vulnerable and share your struggles.

• Offer support and encouragement to others.

Mindful Moments: Anchoring Yourself In The Present

My mind used to be a runaway train, constantly racing between the past and the future, replaying old mistakes and worrying about what's to come. It was exhausting. Mindfulness is about stepping off that train, about anchoring yourself in the present moment. It's about noticing your thoughts and feelings without judgement, about accepting what is. It's not about emptying your mind; it's about learning to observe it. It's a skill, like any other, that takes practise. But the rewards are immense: a sense of calm, a deeper connection to yourself, and a greater appreciation for the simple things in life. Try some meditation techniques to help you stay grounded.

• Pay attention to your breath.

• Engage your senses fully.

• Practise gratitude for what you have.

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Reclaiming Your Narrative: Challenging Negative Self-Talk

I've been there, stuck in the mud of my own mind, replaying the same old failures and fears. It's a dark place, where the only voice you hear is your own, telling you you're not good enough. But I've learned that this voice, this inner critic, isn't me. It's a learned behaviour, a bad habit, and like any habit, it can be broken.

The Inner Critic: Unmasking Its Destructive Voice

That voice in your head, the one that whispers doubts and amplifies flaws? That's your inner critic. It thrives on insecurity and feeds on fear. It's the reason you hesitate, the reason you hold back, the reason you sometimes feel paralysed by self-doubt. It's time to recognise it for what it is: a liar. It's not there to protect you; it's there to keep you small. I've found that naming it, giving it a silly name even, can help to disarm it. Mine's called Brenda.

Rewriting The Script: Practising Compassionate Self-Dialogue

Once you've identified your inner critic, the real work begins: rewriting the script. This isn't about ignoring your flaws; it's about acknowledging them with compassion. It's about speaking to yourself the way you would speak to a friend. Would you berate a friend for making a mistake? Probably not. So why do you do it to yourself? I started by writing down the negative thoughts I had about myself, then challenging them with evidence to the contrary. It felt silly at first, but over time, it started to sink in. I started to believe the kinder words. It's about finding your authentic self.

From Thought To Action: Aligning Your Words With Your Worth

It's not enough to just think differently; you have to act differently. This means making choices that align with your worth. It means setting boundaries, saying no to things that drain you, and yes to things that nourish you. It means taking risks, even when you're scared, because you know you deserve to live a full and meaningful life. It means escaping the vicious circle of negative thoughts. For me, this meant finally pursuing that creative project I'd been putting off for years. It was terrifying, but it was also incredibly liberating. It was a way of saying to myself, "I am worthy of this." And you are too.

The journey of reclaiming your narrative is a lifelong one. There will be setbacks, days when the inner critic roars louder than ever. But the key is to keep practising, keep challenging those negative thoughts, and keep aligning your actions with your worth. You are the author of your own story. Write a good one.

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The Journey Of Growth: Setting Intentions And Celebrating Victories

Charting Your Course: Defining Meaningful Emotional Goals

I've been thinking a lot about where I'm headed, not just in terms of career or finances, but emotionally. It's easy to drift, to let life happen to you, but that's not really living, is it? I'm starting to believe that setting emotional goals is just as important as setting any other kind. What does it even mean, though? For me, it's about identifying the areas where I want to grow. Do I want to be less reactive? More patient? Better at setting boundaries? These aren't things that just magically happen; they require intention and a plan. It's like deciding to run a marathon – you don't just show up on the day and expect to finish. You need to train, set milestones, and track your progress. My emotional goals are my training schedule for a better me. I need to develop a gratitude practise to improve my well-being.

Small Steps, Big Leaps: Acknowledging Every Achievement

It's so easy to get caught up in the big picture, the ultimate destination, that we forget to appreciate the small victories along the way. I'm guilty of this. I'll set a goal, work my arse off to achieve it, and then immediately move on to the next thing without even pausing to acknowledge what I've accomplished. That's a mistake. Every small step forward, every challenge overcome, is a win. It's proof that you're growing, that you're capable of more than you thought. I'm trying to be more mindful of this, to celebrate the little things. Did I handle a difficult conversation with grace? Did I resist the urge to react impulsively? Did I embrace my journey and learn to love myself? Those are all wins, and they deserve to be acknowledged.

The Fuel Of Progress: How Success Builds Self-Esteem

Self-esteem isn't some innate quality you're born with; it's built over time, brick by brick, with every success you experience. And the more you succeed, the stronger that foundation becomes. It's a positive feedback loop. When you achieve something, no matter how small, it reinforces your belief in your own abilities. It tells you that you're capable, that you're competent, that you're worthy. And that belief fuels you to take on even bigger challenges. I've noticed this in my own life. The more I push myself outside of my comfort zone and succeed, the more confident I become. It's not about being perfect or never failing; it's about learning from those failures and using them as stepping stones to future successes. It's about recognising that progress, not perfection, is the ultimate goal.

It's a tough world out there, and it's easy to get discouraged. But remember, you're stronger than you think. You're more capable than you believe. And you're worthy of all the good things life has to offer. So set your intentions, celebrate your victories, and keep moving forward. The journey of growth is a lifelong one, but it's a journey worth taking.

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Navigating The Shadows: Understanding Coping Mechanisms

I've been there, staring into the abyss of my own habits, wondering how I ended up relying on things that ultimately hurt me. It's a tough truth to swallow, but understanding our coping mechanisms – the good, the bad, and the ugly – is a massive step towards emotional well-being. It's about shining a light into those shadowy corners of our lives and asking ourselves, 'Why do I do this?'

The Allure Of Escape: When Substances Become A Crutch

It starts so innocently, doesn't it? A glass of wine to unwind after a stressful day, a cheeky cigarette to calm the nerves. But before you know it, it's not just a treat anymore; it's a need. Substances can become a tempting escape route from the discomfort of our emotions. I've seen it happen, and I've felt the pull myself. The temporary relief is a siren song, luring us further away from dealing with the real issues. It's like putting a plaster on a wound that needs stitches – it might cover it up for a bit, but the infection is still festering underneath.

Unpacking The 'Why': Exploring The Roots Of Your Habits

This is where the real work begins. Why do I reach for that drink? Why do I scroll endlessly through social media? What am I trying to avoid feeling? It's about digging beneath the surface and understanding the emotional triggers that drive our behaviour. Maybe it's anxiety, loneliness, or a deep-seated fear of failure. Whatever it is, acknowledging it is the first step towards breaking free. I find that journaling helps me with emotional patterns. It's like having a conversation with myself, without the fear of judgement.

Seeking Healthier Paths: Developing Constructive Outlets

Okay, so we've identified the problem. Now what? We need to find healthier ways to cope with those difficult emotions. This isn't about deprivation; it's about finding things that genuinely nourish our souls. For me, it's about getting lost in nature, losing myself in a good book, or connecting with people who lift me up. It's about building a toolkit of healthy coping mechanisms that I can reach for when life gets tough. Here are some ideas:

• Exercise: A run, a swim, a dance – anything that gets the body moving and the endorphins flowing.

• Creative expression: Painting, writing, playing music – letting those emotions out in a constructive way.

• Mindfulness and meditation: Relax your body and learning to be present in the moment, rather than getting swept away by our thoughts.

It's not about perfection; it's about progress. It's about choosing to face our shadows, rather than running from them. It's about building a life that is rooted in self-awareness and self-compassion. And remember, you're not alone in this journey. We're all just trying to find our way through the darkness, one step at a time.

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The Unfolding Self: Embracing Continuous Emotional Evolution

Life, eh? It's not a straight line, more like a tangled ball of yarn that a kitten's been playing with. And just when you think you've got a handle on your emotions, BAM! Something new comes along to stir the pot. I've learned that emotional health isn't a destination; it's a never-ending journey. It's about accepting that I'm a work in progress, constantly evolving, learning, and sometimes, stumbling.

Beyond The Quick Fix: A Lifelong Commitment To Well-being

There's no magic pill, no instant cure for emotional turmoil. I used to chase quick fixes – a night out, a shopping spree, anything to numb the pain. But those are just temporary distractions. True well-being comes from consistent effort, from building healthy habits and cultivating a mindset that supports my emotional growth. It's about showing up for myself, day after day, even when I don't feel like it. Think of it like tending a garden; you can't just plant the seeds and expect it to flourish without constant care.

Learning From Every Fall: Resilience As A Muscle

I've fallen flat on my face more times than I care to admit. Each time, it felt like the end of the world. But here's the thing: every fall has taught me something. It's shown me my weaknesses, my strengths, and my capacity to bounce back. Resilience isn't about avoiding falls; it's about improving emotional health getting back up, dusting myself off, and learning from the experience. It's like a muscle; the more you use it, the stronger it becomes.

The Ever-Changing Landscape: Adapting To Life's Rhythms

Life is unpredictable. Just when I think I've got it all figured out, the ground shifts beneath my feet. Relationships change, jobs end, dreams fade. It's easy to get stuck in the past, clinging to what was. But emotional health requires adaptability. It's about accepting that change is inevitable and learning to navigate the journey of being my own parent the ever-changing landscape with grace and courage. It's about finding my footing in the present moment and embracing the unknown with an open heart.

I've realised that emotional evolution is a dance, a constant back-and-forth between acceptance and growth. It's about acknowledging my imperfections, celebrating my progress, and trusting that I have the strength to weather any storm.

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The Power Of Asking: When To Seek Professional Guidance

Life, eh? It throws curveballs, sucker punches, and sometimes, it just feels like you're wading through treacle. I've been there, staring into the abyss, wondering if this is just how it's gonna be. And sometimes, the honest truth is, you can't pull yourself out alone. That's not a weakness; it's just reality. Knowing when to ask for help is a strength, a sign of self-awareness that many never develop. It's about recognising that your emotional well-being is worth fighting for, even if it means swallowing your pride and admitting you need a hand.

Breaking The Stigma: Therapy As A Strength, Not A Weakness

For too long, therapy has been shrouded in whispers and shame. It's seen as something for the 'broken', the 'weak'. But let me tell you, that's a load of bollocks. Going to therapy is like going to the gym for your mind. You wouldn't hesitate to see a doctor for a broken leg, so why hesitate to seek help for a troubled mind? It's about proactive self-care, not admitting defeat. It's about building resilience and developing the tools to navigate life's inevitable storms. I've seen it firsthand – people transforming their lives, not because they were 'fixed', but because they learned how to understand and manage their inner world.

Identifying The Tipping Point: When Self-Help Isn't Enough

We're all about self-reliance, aren't we? Grit your teeth, pull yourself up by your bootstraps, and all that jazz. And yeah, there's a lot to be said for that. But there comes a point when sheer willpower just isn't enough. When the self-help books gather dust on the shelf, when the meditation app mocks you with its serenity, and when you're still drowning in the same old patterns. That's the tipping point. It's when the weight becomes too heavy to carry alone. Maybe you're experiencing persistent anxiety, crippling depression, or overwhelming trauma. Maybe your relationships are falling apart, or you're turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms. Whatever it is, if it's significantly impacting your daily life and you've tried everything else, it's time to seek professional help. Don't wait until you're completely broken.

It's not about being 'crazy' or 'weak'. It's about recognising your limits and having the courage to seek support when you need it. It's about investing in your long-term well-being, not just patching things up in the short term.

Finding Your Ally: Navigating The World Of Mental Health Support

Okay, so you've decided to seek help. Great! But where do you even start? The world of mental health support can feel like a confusing maze. There are therapists, counsellors, psychologists, psychiatrists… it's enough to make your head spin. The first step is often talking to your GP. They can assess your needs and refer you to appropriate services. Don't be afraid to ask questions and do your research. Look for a therapist who specialises in the areas you're struggling with and who you feel comfortable talking to. It might take some trial and error to find the right fit, and that's okay. Think of it like finding a good self-worth coach – it's worth the effort to find someone who truly gets you and can help you on your journey. Remember, you're not alone, and there are people who care and want to help you find your way back to a healthier, happier you. Join the Unshakeable People Club.

Your Emotional Compass: Assessing Your Emotional Health Status Daily

Life, eh? It throws curveballs when you least expect it. One minute you're cruising, the next you're knee-deep in something you didn't sign up for. That's why I've started thinking about emotional health not as a destination, but as a daily practise. It's like checking the oil in your car – you wouldn't wait for the engine to seize before taking a look, would you?

The Daily Check-In: Tuning Into Your Inner State

I've realised that ignoring my feelings is like ignoring a leaky tap – it might seem small at first, but it'll eventually flood the whole house. Now, I try to take a few minutes each day – usually when I'm having my morning cuppa – to just check in with myself. How am I really feeling? Am I stressed, anxious, content, or something else entirely? This simple act of acknowledgement can make a world of difference. It's not about fixing everything right away, but about being aware.

Journaling Your Journey: Tracking Emotional Patterns

Okay, I know what you're thinking: "Journaling? Sounds a bit airy-fairy, doesn't it?" But hear me out. I started keeping a journal a few months back, and it's been surprisingly helpful. I don't write essays – just a few bullet points about how I'm feeling and what might be causing it. Over time, I've started to see patterns emerge. For example, I noticed that I tend to get anxious on Sundays, probably because I'm dreading the start of the work week. Spotting these patterns allows me to take proactive steps to manage my emotions. It's like having a mental health guide to your own mind.

Responsive Living: Adjusting Your Course As Needed

Life isn't a straight line; it's more like a winding road with unexpected detours. The same goes for emotional health. There will be days when you feel great, and days when you feel like you're dragging yourself through treacle. The key is to be responsive to these changes. If I'm feeling overwhelmed, I might take a break, go for a walk, or talk to a friend. If I'm feeling good, I might use that energy to tackle a challenging task or pursue a passion project. It's all about adjusting your course as needed. It's about building self-confidence in your ability to handle whatever life throws your way.

It's not about being perfect, it's about being present. It's about acknowledging your emotions, learning from them, and using them to navigate the ups and downs of life. It's about building a life that's authentic, meaningful, and aligned with your values.

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The Road Ahead

So, we've had a good look at what emotional health means, haven't we? It's not some magic trick, just a steady effort. Think of it like this: you wouldn't expect to run a marathon without training, right? Same goes for your feelings. There will be good days, and there will be rubbish ones. That's just how it is. The point isn't to be perfect, because nobody is. It's about getting back up when you stumble, learning a bit more each time. It's about being honest with yourself, even when it's uncomfortable. And it's about knowing when to ask for a hand. That's the real grit of it all. Keep at it, because your peace of mind is worth every bit of effort.

Frequently Asked Questions

What does 'emotional health' actually mean?

Emotional health is about how well you handle your feelings. It's about understanding your emotions, both good and bad, and having good ways to deal with them. It also means knowing when to ask for help from grown-ups or experts.

How do my feelings affect my body?

Your emotions and your body are connected. If you're really stressed or sad a lot, it can sometimes make you feel unwell physically. It's not that your feelings directly cause sickness, but bad feelings can make you do things that aren't good for your body, like smoking or drinking too much.

Is emotional health the same as not having a mental illness?

Even if someone has a mental illness, they can still have good emotional health. Mental illnesses often have deeper causes, like brain chemistry or past bad experiences. Emotional health is more about learning how to manage your feelings and cope with life, which everyone can work on.

How can I tell if my emotional health isn't so good?

Signs you might be struggling include pulling away from friends and family, feeling very tired, sleeping too much or too little, eating differently, using substances more, having thoughts race in your head, not doing well at school or work, feeling grumpy or worthless, or not taking care of yourself.

What are some ways to make my emotional health better?

You can improve your emotional health by living a balanced life – mixing school/work with fun, being active but also resting. Staying connected with friends and family is really important too.

Can negative self-talk really hurt my emotional health?

Yes, thinking about yourself in a negative way can make you feel bad. It's like a story you tell yourself. If you start changing that story to be more positive, your feelings might start to follow.

Why is setting goals important for my feelings?

Setting goals gives you something to work towards. When you reach those goals, even small ones, it makes you feel good about yourself and builds your confidence.

When should I get help from a professional?

It's okay to ask for help! If you're finding it hard to cope on your own, or if your feelings are getting in the way of your daily life, talking to a counsellor or doctor can be a really helpful step. It shows strength to ask for support.